One reading says your ex is coming back. Another says they’ve moved on. A third says they still love you but aren’t ready to admit it.
By the fifth reading, you’ve heard enough conflicting predictions to need a filing cabinet just to keep them organized. 😂
I’ve been involved in professional spellcasting for nearly 20 years. I’m not a tarot reader or a psychic, but I regularly encounter the larger question behind relationship readings:
Are you looking for another answer, or are you hoping something in your relationship will actually change?
Those aren’t the same thing.
Why people keep asking about the same ex
When a relationship ends, the uncertainty can be miserable. You want to know what happened, whether the other person still cares, and whether there’s a possibility of getting back together.
A tarot reading may offer a new perspective. It may even give you a moment of clarity.
But if you keep seeking readings on the same question, you may eventually notice that the interpretations don’t agree. One sounds hopeful. Another sounds final. And neither changes the fact that you still have a decision to make about what you want.
I don’t think that makes you foolish. It means the situation matters to you.
A reading and spellwork solve different questions
Here’s where I think people get tangled up.
A reading is generally about insight or interpretation. Spellcasting is a separate service in which a practitioner performs spiritual work toward an intention.
If you’re seeking clarity about your relationship, that is one conversation.
If you’ve already decided that your intention is reconciliation, attraction, or strengthening a relationship, and you’re considering commissioning spellwork, that’s another.
I’m a spellcaster. I perform spells; I don’t offer readings and I don’t claim to know exactly what somebody else is thinking.
Nor do I believe that a person needs to buy five readings before they’re allowed to discuss a spell.
You can consider spellwork without pretending a reading guaranteed an outcome. And you can decide against spellwork entirely.
Before you spend another dollar, ask yourself this
What are you actually hoping to accomplish?
Are you looking for information about your ex? Are you deciding whether to make contact? Are you considering performed reconciliation spellwork? Or are you realizing that you want a different path for yourself?
Those questions may lead to very different choices.
If a practitioner says you must purchase another reading, cleansing, or ritual before they can help, ask what that service involves and why they’re recommending it. Nobody should rush you into an expensive chain of services.
And if you’re considering a spellcaster, ask what work they’re agreeing to perform, what it costs, how long the casting itself lasts, and what happens afterward. A casting period isn’t a deadline for results, and no responsible practitioner can guarantee another person’s actions.
My perspective on love spellcasting
Sometimes someone comes to me with a clear intention: they want to explore spellwork for an ex coming back. Sometimes they’re unsure whether reconciliation, strengthening an existing relationship, or a different kind of work is appropriate.
That’s why I believe in having the conversation before recommending a service. I explain that approach here.
I won’t promise that spellwork can force a person to return. I also won’t suggest that buying more readings is the price of getting an answer.
What I can do is explain the spellcasting service we actually provide, including its limits, and let someone decide whether it’s right for them.
Five readings later, the important question hasn’t changed
When someone is hurting over an ex, it’s easy to keep searching for certainty.
But another prediction isn’t necessarily the next step.
Sometimes the important question isn’t “What does the next reading say?”
It’s “What am I really trying to change, and what—if anything—do I want to do about it?”
That’s where a more useful conversation begins.
— Lilly